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Page Index
- Helplines
- General Resources For Perpetrators
- Resources for Men-Identified Perpetrators
- Resources for Women-Identified Perpetrators
- Resources for Trans-Identified Perpetrators
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Helplines
call Respect phoneline on 0808 802 4040, Mon – Fri, 10am – 1pm and 2pm – 5pm.
Respect runs a confidential helpline for domestic violence perpetrators. They offer information and advice to support perpetrators stop their violence and change their abusive behaviours.
Call STOP IT NOW.org.uk on 0808 100 0900
Help line aimed at adults who have abused or are thinking of abusing a child, family and friends of abusers and parents of children and young people with worrying sexual behavior.
Call London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard on 020 7837 7324
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General Resources For Perpetrators
Tips for Seeking a Therapist (for People Who Have Done Sexual Harm)
- Key Words – Definitions: Words We Use and What They Mean to Creative Interventions
- Real Life Stories and Examples from the Toolkit
- Creative Interventions Anti-Oppression Policy (Anti-Discrimination/Anti-
- Harassment)
- Community-Based Responses to Interpersonal Violence Workshop
- Taking Risks: Implementing Grassroots Community Accountability Strategies, by Communities Against Rape and Abuse (CARA).
- Distinguishing between Violence and Abuse, by Connie Burk, Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse
- Portrait of Praxis: An Anatomy of Accountability, by Esteban Kelly and Jenna Peters-Golden of Philly Stands Up (PSU)
- Confronting Sexual Assault: Transformative Justice on the Ground in Philadelphia, by Bench Ansfield and Timo thy Colman of Philly Stands Up (PSU)
- Shame, Realisation and Restoration: The Ethics of Restorative Practice, by Alan Jenkins
- Tips for Seeking a Therapist for People Who Have Done Sexual Harm, by Anonymous.
- Resource List
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What to Do When You’ve Been Called Out
This trifold pamphlet provides an excellent basic idea of what to do when you’ve been called out for sexual assault, abuse, and other forms of sexual violence. It provides ideas on taking responsibility for your actions, learning how to support others, finding support for yourself, promoting personal and community healing, communicating about these issues, and identifying and addressing harmful behaviors. It’s a useful guide for helping folks who have done violence work towards building resilient, coherent communities in the wake of their violence; it also helps people who’ve done harm understand not only how they can avoid making the harm worse, but also how they can contribute to healing. Highly recommended!
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A trifold pamphlet that lists steps that people who’ve been called out for sexual assault should take.
Its main themes are: Taking responsibility for your actions, Learning methods of supporting others, finding support for yourself, promoting personal and community healing, how to communicate on these issues, identifying and addressing behaviors. – Cindy Crabb
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A zine about community response to sexual assault. Issue #2
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Radical Community Response to Sexual Assault issue #3
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We Are All Survivors, We Are All Perpetrators
This short zine combines to excellent resources on sexual assault: the article “We Are All Survivors, We Are All Perpetrators” from the Crimethinc publication Rolling Thunder and a piece titled “What To Do When Someone Tells You That You Violated Their Boundaries, Made Them Feel Uncomfortable, Or Committed Assault (A Start).” Both offer important ideas for beginning discussions about sexual assault from a perspective that brings the issue into the open rather than keeping it hidden in the shadows.
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Taking The First Step: Suggestions To People Called Out For Abusive Behaviour
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THINK AND DIE THINKING Jan 2013
Including a section on how to deal with being called out.
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Resources Specifically for Men-Identified Perpetrators
Looks like a collection of article from other sources.
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by the Kansas Mutual Aid Collective
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This is the first issue of a zine sub-titled “a booklet for men against sexism.” It features a number of essays looking at patriarchy and sexism and the role men have in upholding these institutions. The writings are grouped into four topic areas: 1) growing up male: writings on socialization and manhood; 2) changing ways: re-defining manhood; 3) men’s work: the work we can do to end sexism in our lives and communities; 4) getting to know yourself: some questions to aid in the process of self-discovery.
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Sub-titled “a booklet for men against sexism,” this is the second issue of an older zine focused on critical theory and personal reflections on male socialization, sexism, and the concept of manhood. It has writings from several different authors on this broad subject who share their thoughts on manhood, male violence against women, father-son relationships, everyday anti-sexism, and demands from women.
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Dealing With Our Shit: Six Years of Men’s Group and Accountability Work
This zine is by Dealing With Our Shit, a men’s group for men and male-identified people from the Twin Cities who later took on the task of mentoring other males through accountability processes for sexual assault. It’s over 100 pages of interviews, reflections, and analysis about their history, their experiences, and their effectiveness. A great resource for anyone interested in working on community response to sexual assault outside the prison/court system. Lots of art, too!
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Philly Dudes Collective: Year One
In this zine, the Philly Dudes Collective—an anti-sexist “men’s group” that came out of the radical/anarchist and punk scenes in Philadelphia—gives an overview of their work during the first year of their existence. It includes a sampling of posters they used to promote their events, workshops and discussions they led, panels they participated on, etc. They offer good outlines for hosting conversations on masculinity and patriarchy and men’s roles in it. This is an excellent resource for anyone hoping to have conversations about masculinity, patriarchy, and gender in radical political and social scenes.
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DoDON’T BE A DICK is a zine about masculinity, rape, porn, and consent.
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Don’t Be A Dick revised editions
A zine about rape culture, male socialization, a critique of traditional porn, the importance of consent, including being honest enough to look at one’s history, and a great article called “what kind of man are you going to be?”. This revised edition features “More sex positivity, more cock love, better analysis, more genderqueer!”
It is so important that guys start doing this work, and this is a really good introduction zine about these issues
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Beginners guide to responsible sexuality
The cover says “(for men)”, and it’s put out by a Denver Collective who “identify as experiencing male privilege.” You should download it and read it if your interested.
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As If They Were Human: A Different Take on Perpetrator AccountabilityThis zine contains three articles by Tod Augusta-Scott, a social worker who works with men who have battered, abused, or used sexual violence. He has a novel approach to leading the men to take responsibility for their own actions and be accountable. This approach is based in challenging gender essentialism, listening to the men, and helping them develop new stories for their lives. Cogent and insightful, Tod Augusta-Scott’s articles provide a practical model that should be useful to people involved in community-based accountability work.
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Sex and Men a hot potato
“This booklet has been put together by a small group of men. It’s an honest and open view of how a few men see sex, other men and themselves. It’s also about how different our lives in society have been, and how as men we are all linked to it’s controlling powers. We hope to follow this booklet with another sometime in the future called ‘Love and Men’. This will be more about our own feelings towards each other and how we refuse and abuse them. Any men who wish to become involved or just want to write then please do.”
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Men Speaking Out on Men and Sexism
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Interview with Philly’s Pissed and Philly Stands Up
An interview with Philly’s Pissed and Philly Stands Up, two collectives that work to support survivors of sexual assault and hold perpetrators accountable. From Heartattack zine.
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on the road to healing: an anthology for men ending sexism by basil shadid
this book was originally a series of zines that came out between 1998 and 2004. I was always so impressed by the work basil was doing, and am excited to have these zines all together in a book! It’s a great collection of short, accessible, powerful essays and stories. Includes: The Cult of Manhood, My Reisistance to Feminism, Intentional Masculinities Interview, Personal Goals for Ending Sexism, and a ton more!
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Interviews about role models and subtle things about masuclinity and exploring what we were taught about it, how that teaching effected us, and how we challenge it. With folks: including Shane (Ahleuchatistas), Brontez Purnell, Colin Atrophy, Larry (Pretty Pretty) and more!
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Training Men To Be Rapistsa transcript of a speech from the 2012 Boise SlutWalk, this is a zine about rape culture– a culture that normalizes, excuses, and enforces rape and trains men to be rapists.
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Experiments in Transformative Justice by the Challenging Male Supremacy Project
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When Calling Me Your Beautiful Sister is Not Enough
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Going to places that scare me: Personal reflections on challenging male supremacy
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Resources Specifically for Women-identified Perpetrators
No known material resources in circulation. Learn from the experiences of survivors:
Ask; from the mouths of wolves bellowing forth
A narrative of consent, loneliness, deconstructing child hood violence and abuse, redefining rape for a muggle culture, finding out what normalcy means to children, growing out of being shy and awkward, and empowering one’s self to reach past gushing wounds and continue resistance.
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The aim of this book is to do something that can be really difficult to do… talk about the sexual abuse and rape of boys and men. We hope that the boy or man reading this might not feel so alone anymore, because we know how that feels.
Dealing with the impact or legacy of sexual abuse can be emotional, confusing, draining, and sometimes feels like it’s just too difficult and never going to end. But it does get easier, we can’t guarantee when but if you want it to and work at it then it will.
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Consen(t)sus? Exploring Contradictions, Practice, and Politics. Also, Gay Sex
This is a compilation zine edited by Eric Levitt of Gay 4 Pay press and Jonathan Vallely of Broken Pencil. It consists of writings, explorations and personal reflections on and about consent from people who identify/or partially identify as men who have sex with men. Lots of text and great for anyone looking for a beyond Consent 101 read.
Writings by: Eric Levitt, Jonathan Vallely, Andrew Morrison-Gurza, Eddie of Gross Process/Doom Clouds Zine, Shakir Rahim and more.
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HOAX #9 – FEMINISMS & VULNERABILITIES
essays include:
- How vulnerability can combat misogyny within trans communities
- Vulnerabilities and doors as a queer mixed woman
- Coping with internalized misogyny, consciously staying away from men, and familial dynamics
- Nuances of high school experiences
- Letting go of hurtful narratives while embracing heartache and the process of “breaking down”
- Views on queer identity interrogation, performance, and transparency as a punk zinester
- Vulnerabilities of mental health perspectives and lack of intersectionality
- Witnessing misguided white manarchist resistance to police and reflections on vulnerability of communities of color
- Multi-generational healing work and vulnerabilities as a male-socialized survivor
- Questioning the responsibility of self-agency after “checking out” during sex
- Asking for help as a necessary self-publishing task
- Experiences of racism and sexism in a hospital setting and the legitimacy of describing one’s pain
- Trans women and solitary confinement
- Boundary setting in the contexts of capitalism, physical and mental illness, and life crises
- Inpatient hospital stays and changes in labels of one’s mental illness(es)
- Loss of memory and personal history, critiquing queer/trans* growth narratives, and creating (non-)advice for non-normative teens and young adults
- Vulnerability of discussing physical illness
- Navigating queer attraction and desire with a history of violence
- A feminist coming out monologue
- Dealing with kink, trauma, and complexities of BDSM involvement
- Interview Excerpt with Daniela Capistrano, Founder of the POC Zine Project
- Examining the necessity of assertiveness for disabled women and asking for accommodations
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Bad habits through being socialised in the gender binary:
What Happened to Sisterhood?
Cat fights, gossip, body policing, slut shaming, enough is enough! Be a better sista, the world is cruel enough without us being cruel to each other. You can’t smash patriarchy by yourself!
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Holding each other to a subservient standard, ‘know your place’.
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’Feminist’ case against women bishops
Subalternity: Essentialising your role in society which can mean accepting dehumanizing traditions that make you subservient to men.
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Women who feel entitled more likely to endorse benevolent sexism study finds
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The Second Sex by Simon de Beauviour
Unlearning your self-worth being dependent on your relationship to others.
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Reproduction of Mothering by Nancy Chodorow
Unlearning the patriarchal family.
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Strange story of a maretal affair that the author wanted to share as edgy somehow?
“My husband was pleased to see that I had such a good time with my sister that he suggested I do it again sometime. That’s when I whipped out my flyer for next weekend’s craft sale an hour away in Rochester. I put on my pouty face and said, Pwease pwease daddy, let us girls go buy some garbage from other people?” He had a good laugh and agreed as long as I promised spending no more than $100.”
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Resources Specifically for Trans-Identified Perpetrators
Zero real resources that I know of, please comment below if you do.
Transgender/SOFFA: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Resource Sheet (October 20th, 2003) Anti-violence Publications
Tactics used by transgender abusers:
- Claiming they are just being “butch” or that “it’s the hormones” (to explain their violent behavior)
- Ridiculing or belittling your iden-tity as a bisexual, trans, femme, butch, genderqueer….
- Claiming that your identity “undermines” or is “disrespectful” of theirs
- Charging you with “not being supportive” if you ask to discuss questions of transitioning timing and/or expense
- Denying that you are affected by the transition or by being part-nered with a trans person
- Accusing you of not allowing hir to have a “proper adolescence”
- Forbidding you to talk to others about transgender topics
- Telling you you would harm the LGB and/or T community if you exposed what was happening
- Negating your personal decisions
- Claiming they are more “politically correct” and using their status as an L, G, B, and/or T person against you
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